Nara Smith was surprised when someone called her marriage to Lucky Blue Smith “traditional.”
“The other day, someone brought it up to me, and they were like, ‘You have a very traditional way of life.’ I’m like, ‘What do you mean?’” Nara, 23, said on the Wednesday, July 9, episode of the “On Purpose” podcast. “We split chores. I work. My husband works. We have children. We split everything. I cook because I love to, not because I have to. Lucky cleans. There was nothing traditional.”
She continued, “And then they were like, ‘Well, you had kids at 19 and you got married at 18.’ And I was like, ‘And?’ And they’re like, ‘That’s traditional.’ And I’m like, ‘Oh, I guess that’s traditional then.’ It never even crossed my mind because I’ve always been such a believer in having people make their own choices and never judging someone else based on how they choose to live their life and much rather celebrating them. … It was such a foreign concept to me that people would have a negative opinion on me choosing to start my life in that way, early on.”
Nara and Lucky, now 27, exchanged vows in 2020, welcoming daughter Rumble Honey, son Slim Easy and daughter Whismy Lou in 2020, 2022 and 2024, respectively. In June, the couple announced they are expecting their fourth baby. (Lucky is also dad to daughter Gravity, whom he welcomed with ex-girlfriend Stormi Bree Henley in 2017.)
In 2024, Nara became the face of the internet’s “trad wife” movement — essentially an aesthetic that glorifies traditional stay-at-home mom duties. The model shared on Wednesday that she “sometimes” struggles with her online presence and noted that the internet sees her as the “poster child” for the trad wife movement — something she rejects.
“There’s nothing truly traditional about us as a couple, apart from maybe that we chose to have kids young and get married young. But apart from that, we split chores 50/50,” she shared. “There’s things that Lucky does that I guess traditional men wouldn’t do. Like do the dishes or get the kids dressed or do their hair, or whatever it may be that people don’t associate with a traditional man. And there’s things that I do, like having a full-time career and having Lucky be home watching the children while I travel for two weeks. Which is, I guess, not traditional in their mind.”
She continued, “It’s odd. And I feel like people see that side of my life, and I voice that side of my life, but they still don’t want to accept it. So I’ve just kind of learned … [I’m] gonna do me and whoever resonates with that, great. If they don’t, then there’s nothing really I can do to change their minds.”
Nara, who called herself someone that is “so controversial” on social media, added that users “don’t want to hear” her perspective nor “change their opinion.”
“Society, they love drama. They love negativity. They feed off of fights and opinions and online situations that cause conflict. I think that’s what people love projecting onto me,” she shared. “They love that I’m so controversial and they can kind of say whatever. And in the beginning, it really used to bother me.”
Nara admitted that she “used to cry at home” and told Lucky that she didn’t understand “why they’re saying all these things” when “none of this is true.”
“I would make a post that’s, like, very subtle I guess. And I would say in the voiceover, like, ‘I’m not X, Y and Z. I’m actually a working mom. I actually don’t believe in these things,’” she said. “And then all the comments would be like, ‘She’s lying, she’s gaslighting us.’ And I’m like, ‘I literally cannot win.’ And I think that’s what I’ve learned. Like, people don’t want to hear the truth.”
She continued, “They don’t care for the truth. They care about what they want to hear and what serves them. So the less I say, kind of the better because it preserves my energy. There’s no point in me saying something that someone doesn’t even want to hear.”
Nara noted that she’s just “showing parts” of her life and “not giving everything away” — and feels like sometimes viewers think she’s “perfect.” She added, “I’m not perfect. I’m nowhere near perfect. No one is. No one is perfect, regardless of how high of a pedestal we put people on.”
